Terrific Trio: 10 things you learn when you have a third kid
I always thought I was going to be a mum of two girls. Never did I think we would be outnumbered by kids by turning our two into a trio, but then along came Freddie. Having a third child felt like a huge step compared to two kids, and with our youngest coming up to his first birthday soon, it’s the perfect time to share some of the biggest lessons we learnt along the way! Whilst you can never be fully prepared for what parenthood brings, here are 10 things we learnt with baby number three…
1. We’re outnumbered.
Having more kids than adults in the household or out in public is scary. You’ve not even got enough hands to hold all three at the same time.
2. Hotels aren’t always made for five.
This is one thing I didn’t think about when I was pregnant with my third, until we wanted to book a hotel and realised the one we usually book with doesn’t take more than 4 people; back to the drawing board!
3. Multitasking will be your main skill (as if we don’t have loads of skills already being a parent...)
Having to hold the baby whilst dancing around to keep him happy, making cereal for your other two kids and making yourself a nice cup of tea, just for it to get cold, is totally the norm. I’ve been lucky recently as in the past few weeks, my two eldest have wanted to make their own cereal in the mornings. But I’m still multi-tasking with many other things.
Sure, there are elements of this with one and two kids, but this is by far the most tired I have ever been. When the baby doesn’t sleep, you still have to be on your ‘A-game’ for the others. I never knew I’d be so exhausted, but just like many parents, somehow you manage to muddle through.
5. Ah, the dreaded shop with all the kids.
I’m sure it’s not just me who gets nervous shopping with the kids. The girls seem to love playing hide and seek in the shop sometimes, which can be scary when we can’t immediately see one of them. It’s all about eyes on the back of our heads with three, and children disappearing in three directions is much more challenging than two!
6. They are all different.
Having three kids has made me realise how different kids are, and no child is the same. Both girls are totally different personality-wise and both interested in different things, and after adding a boy to the family mix, we’re realising how different he’s growing up to be too. However, my middle really looks up to her big sister and has recently been copying a lot of the things she does. It’s super cute, though!
7. You can’t prepare.
Being pregnant I tried to prepare myself for motherhood of three kids but in all honesty – you can’t. You just should live each day as it comes. No day is the same. No one can be prepared for what parenting brings you. This includes being puked on, being pooed and peed on (yep, it happens, a lot!).
8. Ask for help.
Being a parent is scary and at times lonely. Never be afraid asking for help, whether it’s just asking the grandparents to have the little ones for a couple of hours so you can have a hot bath, shower and put your feet up with a hot Ah, a hot cuppa…
9. You’re constantly running around.
There’s always something that needs doing or finishing. There’s at least one child who wants attention, if not, all three. If your kids are anything like mine, then at least one will be asking for food – every ten minutes, throughout the day.
10. There’s a lot of love.
As said above, the parents are outnumbered but that means there is a lot more love in the house. Having three beautiful kids to read a bedtime story to and have big cuddles with is a blessing.