Super Seven: Lessons learnt in 7 years of being a mum
My eldest, Arthur, turned 7 in June. It's got me thinking about what I know now that I didn't at the start of this parenting journey. So, in honour of my seven years as a mum, here are seven nuggets of parenting wisdom!
- There is literally no way you can understand what it is like being a parent until you are one. It is a bit like winning a chilli eating competition. You THINK you can imagine what it's like to eat 20 bird's eye chillies, but you can't until you do it. There's such a sense of accomplishment when it goes well, but some inevitable pain too.
- You will not be the parent you think you will be. You will be better, sometimes. And worse, sometimes. But thankfully kids forgive easily.
- Do not, ever, be tempted to buy 'days of the week' socks or pants. They will drive you mad on a daily basis. Unless you like spending two minutes extra each morning looking for the right day, which is always hiding somewhere at the back.
- Kids don't care if you aren't great at cooking, crafting, sports (delete as appropriate). They love being with you, that's all. The biggest gift you can give them is your time.
- Life can be hard, other kids can be mean (and even yours can sometimes too). But as long as you give them a safe place to come home to, they'll be OK. In fact, they will learn resilience through the unpleasant things that happen to them.
- All kids need is unconditional love. That's it. Not fancy holidays, organic food, or brand new toys. Ah, it sounds so simple, doesn't it?!
- Even if your toddler eats spinach, avocado, broccoli and mackerel etc when he's little, don't be too smug – he will probably decide he hates all fish and vegetables by the time he's 7. It's just what they do. But persist, he'll probably come back to his foodie ways once he's older (I'm hoping).
What's the biggest thing you've learned so far about being a parent? Share with us in the comments below!